This doesn't necessarily mean I'm asking her out again. Being ghosted or receiving non-committal responses without concrete plans to set up another date is another sure sign of disinterest.And though men often feel pressured to make the first move, there's no harm in taking a feminist stance of reaching out first if you're really interested.The informal text to see if you have the afternoon free to spend time together, unannounced, is the key that someone's thinking of you even when there's no pre-determined date."Take notice when they ask you to do random little things like run errands together or go to the park.When you start dating someone and haven't established exclusivity, says Santos, it's always important to measure signs that the other person is as on-board as you are.This could mean making regular conversation or establishing dates at a consistent frequency.When your date wants to spend time with you alone instead of calling in backup for a group date, says Santos, it likely means that he's comfortable around you and wants to spend more time getting to know you."One tactic to combat a boring date," he says, "is calling in 'reinforcement' friends" as social buffers.
Though seeing the date through to its end may seem like an obligation for most people, Santos says there *are* exceptional dating disasters where you have to cut it short for your own sanity.
The alternative: "If I'm not interested after the date, I'll head straight home and begin my process of fading out of this girl's life (following up is not part of that process)." Of course, not hearing back right away isn't a definite rejection, but the excitement of a speedy follow-up message speaks for itself.
When you don't get that speedy affirmation text, or a greeting within a few days, it can mean a number of things.
It's that next step when they're getting to know you that they want you around whenever, wherever," Santos says.
There's a big difference between the impromptu hangout invitation and the "lol u up? If you're seeking a more serious relationship, pay attention to whether the other person is exclusively asking you to hang out at night or clearing their schedule for a daytime meet-up. "Use these indicators as guidelines (they usually build on each other as things progress)." Every relationship is different, but if you're not sure of where the other person stands, what's there to lose by asking?